Me and my corgi, Sparrow at the airport

1) Write about yourself [check]; 2) Make it snazzy [check]

Elevator pitches are still not my strong suit. I’m constantly torn between “don’t say too much” and “don’t say too little” which accurately reflects the mental strain I put on myself with any life decision.


If we are not our words, then what are we?

I’ve struggled with concepts of consistency, both in words and in action, all my life. Not necessarily whether I can follow through in what I believe in (although there have been my fair share of those occasions), but rather if what people say aligns with what they do — and being quick to judge if I see inconsistencies.

We live in a world where “sticking by your word” is romanticized, especially within media landscapes, be it movies and television, the books we read, or the social media influencers that we follow. Record is so important to us: if someone said


A reminder letter to those who dream

It’s strange how often we are encouraged to share our words and ideas with the world, while also being told that no one cares what we do or say as much as we think they do. This gets to the crux of life, doesn’t it? That what we do, how we act, who we are, should be in service of our own self-expression. But who can deny wanting to touch the hearts of others, wanting to bring air to those who are suffocating; to inspire, encourage, or simply evoke a few laughs?

Not everyone is going to like your voice…


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Don’t strive for outlandish reading goals; just start reading

I read 25 books in a year. And yes, I know that number is a bit anticlimactic when compared to those who read 100+ books a year, but my experience taught me this: small habit changes can have a much broader impact than you initially intended. Let me explain.

A year ago, I was in a reading drought. Well, more accurately, I was addicted to one fictional series whose books are absurdly long and thus did not leave much room for other books; I’m more of a one-book-at-a-time type of person. …


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Judgment & kindness are two-way streets

Two months ago, I tried to write a post about why perfectionism is a terrible standard to live by. I ended up not posting it because I didn’t feel it was good enough. The irony should be obvious.

When I took my initial stab at the subject, I felt there was a missing piece in my understanding. While those writers who claim “trying to be perfect is limiting you” make a valid point, I knew there was more to it. Why exactly do we aim for perfection in the first place?

Well, I think it’s because we project that expectation…


We need to stop seeking external solutions to our problems

When was the last time you let yourself be sad or upset and didn’t seek a remedy? You let yourself cry without a shoulder to lean on or a bottle to drown yourself in because, damn-it, you will make that pressing sorrow go away.

I’m currently reading Pema Chördrön’s When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, not because my life is in dire straits, but more so because I recognized my life was in transition and wasn’t sure how to handle it. …


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What history has really taught us

If history has taught us anything…

In the past year or so, I feel this phrase has made an abnormal resurgence. Beyond being an obvious cliche, we use this saying as a catch-all explanation to capture anything complex. We use it to explain why people make certain choices or why trends come and go; to belittle our enemies and uplift our closest friends. …


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Stoic thought deserves a revival

Reading Marcus Aurelius's Meditations (translated by Gregory Hays), his words emphasized that in the almost 2000 years since his existence, societal circumstances surely changed, but not people. Modes of thought come and go, but human nature is constant.

For me, Meditations surfaced one realization: people have strayed so far from staying in their own lane. The advent of social media has blown age-old gossip out of proportion, to the point where we are more concerned about what other people think of us than what we think of ourselves.


Thought-provoking questions for intentional answers

In a few days, I will be heading back to school to pursue a graduate degree. As I make this known, it is easy to default in seeing this as one moment in time, as if I made the decision yesterday. But that is not the case; it took me two years of internal debates, research, and contemplation to come to this conclusion, but the mere fact of starting tends to get all the credit.

Many people may be questioning if they should go back to school; we are told it is a great place to learn new ideas, gain…


The speed that time travels is not fixed — it’s fluid

The human relationship with time is interesting. Often people clamor, “Life is too short!” Other times, the sentiment is “Life is long, there is no need to rush.” I believe this dichotomy is a reflection of how people live their daily lives. This is similar to Newton’s First Law of Physics, which says:

an object will not change it’s motion unless a force acts upon it.

If we translate this to people’s relationship with time, those who feel life is short must feel short on time in their daily lives, unable to slow down their tumultuous sprint. …

Kaila Martinez

Writing as a way to live intentionally, think critically, and connect with others. Other places I exist on the web: linktr.ee/kailamartinez

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